“I love you in a place where there’s no space or time.”
— “A Song for You,” The Carpenters
Can we receive signs from loved ones who have died and transitioned to the next realm? I believe we can.
Openness matters. When we allow for the possibility of connection, experiences that might otherwise go unnoticed can feel meaningful, comforting, and even healing. When we dismiss the possibility entirely, we may miss subtle moments that could otherwise speak to us.
I’ve experienced signs in a variety of ways.
A few years ago, during a monthly mindfulness class held in my home office, we discussed how mindfulness can help us navigate difficult relationships. During that session, I became emotional and shared what was weighing on my heart. I cried openly with the group. When the class ended, I opened my office door and Jackie, who had been standing just outside, said, “Look at the chandelier in your office.”
The chandelier—which is quite heavy and something I had never seen move before—was swaying back and forth noticeably, nearly a foot in either direction. It continued for close to two minutes. We stood there watching in silence, stunned. There were no storms, no earthquakes, and no pets nearby. Nothing obvious that could explain what we were seeing.
Jackie asked, “What were you doing in there?”
I told her about the emotional experience of the class. “It’s probably my grandparents,” I said. In that moment, it felt as though the Divine was communicating with me through them. I had reached out in meditative prayer, and what I felt in response was simple and clear: You are heard. You are supported. You are loved.
That same chandelier has flickered at other meaningful times. On one occasion, after my sister sent me old photos of our great-grandparents, I was sitting quietly and looking at them when the lights above me began to flicker again. In my mind, I asked, Can you please stop? And they did. I then thought, There’s no need to get my attention through the lights—you can come to me anytime in my thoughts.
The flickering stopped, and I felt calm.
Several years ago, flickering was more common and often ceased when I said out loud, “Please stop.” So it wasn’t surprising to me when it occurred again while I was reflecting on my great-grandparents’ photos. In those moments, I experienced it not as something unsettling, but as a familiar and gentle acknowledgment.
Another time, I took a photo of my grandmother to a store to have it resized. While driving, I spoke to the photo as if she were with me, recalling memories and moments we shared. After returning home, I sat for my usual morning meditation. When I finished and stood up, I noticed a penny on the floor. I don’t carry change, and there was no reason for it to be there. I took it as a quiet acknowledgment—a gentle thank you for remembering her.
For many people, experiences like these are a source of comfort and healing.
If you wish to receive signs, start simply. Take moments of silence. Remember your loved ones. Think of them gently. They are often only a thought away.
Modern life gives us constant stimulation—the computer, the television, the phone. These distractions can drown out our intuition and deeper awareness. Silence, as the saying goes, is the vocabulary of God. The analytical mind, which serves us well in daily life, can become an impediment when we are trying to access intuition, the subconscious, or a deeper sense of connection. In these moments, the analytical mind must step aside.
Many Indigenous traditions emphasize listening, intuition, and silence as valid ways of knowing—approaches that modern society often overlooks. Throughout history, breakthroughs in art, science, and medicine have arisen not solely from logic, but from intuition.
As Albert Einstein wrote:
“There is no logical way to the discovery of these elemental laws. There is only the way of intuition…”
Let the mind settle. Allow space for something deeper to emerge.
Try this: take a quiet moment and think of your relatives who have passed. Speak to them as if they are present. Listen—not with expectation, but with openness. And trust that whatever you experience, or don’t experience, is enough.
There are many ways to strengthen this kind of connection. I can help coach you in developing your own intuitive awareness. And if you would like me to act as a bridge—to help facilitate communication with your loved ones as a medium—you are welcome to reach out through my contact page.
